How to Stop Making Excuses

Note: Six months ago, I read Ramit’s “Manifesto for 2018” and got inspired. I ended up cranking this out.

Remember New Year’s? When you were going to lose weight, drink less, read more, save more, cook more, and maybe ride a unicorn (hey, anything is possible!)?

But deep down you — and I — knew you probably wouldn’t.

Time would pass, your excitement would fade, and you’d come up with a plethora of excuses for why you couldn’t stick to your goal:

“It’s too cold to walk to the gym.”

“It’s John’s birthday so I have to drink.”

“I had to binge-watch Netflix so I didn’t have time to read.”

“I can’t save extra this month because I have to buy (insert some commercial object you just need).”

“It’s too hard to cook.”

“Unicorns don’t exist so I can’t ride them.”

Inaction is the easiest action. Doing nothing takes less work than doing something. Then, when we start to feel guilty, we tell ourselves a story that justifies our inaction.

I do it all the time. I mean I pay for a gym membership and I’ve only been once this year. (And a gym membership in New York City is not cheap!) There are so many other things I want to do too, but when I don’t do them, I can always find an excuse as to why.

No one likes to wake up and look themselves in the mirror and go, “Well, I failed again.”

So we create our own myths as to why we couldn’t live up to our own expectations — and why it wasn’t our fault. We all have elaborate tales we tell ourselves to make us feel better and not like a disappointment.

I know mine. “I didn’t do X because I had to go to an event and there was good wine.” Or “I didn’t do Y because I got carried away with work.”

I know all the other stories people tell themselves about travel:

“I don’t have enough money.”

“I can’t save enough.”

“I don’t earn enough.”

“Flights are too expensive.”

“My credit isn’t good enough to get a points card.”

“My currency is too weak.”

“I don’t have anyone to travel with.”

I’ve heard every excuse there is. It’s not to say these aren’t valid excuses. They are. We all have barriers to success. We all have problems. We all have things that get in the way. Not everyone is going to be able to travel.

But we’re now half-way through the year.

What if instead of letting those limits define you, you were the hero that defeats the dragon and saves Princess Travel? What if you became the person who travels and has amazing adventures?

It’s time to say to yourself, “OK, I want to travel, and maybe it is expensive, but if all these people I see online are doing it, maybe it’s not so hard. Let me look into it. Let me Google some information.”

Admit that you don’t know what you don’t know.

Admit to yourself maybe – just maybe – there is a way to travel but you just don’t know what it is and your preconceived notions are demons holding you back!

Turn your excuses upside down – and into action plans:

“I don’t have enough money…so I will look to cut my expenses as best I can and change my spending habits.”

“I can’t save enough…so I will create a savings plan and take proactive steps to make it happen.”

“I don’t earn enough…so I will look for a second job or something in the sharing economy. Maybe I’ll become an Uber driver.”

“Flights are too expensive…so I will go someplace cheaper or start collecting points for a free flight.”

“My credit isn’t good enough to get a points card…so I’ll start with an easier card to build my credit up.”

“My currency is too bad…so I’ll go somewhere cheaper.”

“I don’t have anyone to travel with…so I’ll go on a tour or alone.”

Yes, travel can be expensive. Yes, it costs money. And yes, not everyone can travel.

But when you start with a negative internal mindset, you’ve already lost the game. I’m not saying that magical thinking is the solution. No, magical thinking doesn’t work. The Secret is BS. Wishing for something won’t make it happen.

Actions make something happen.

Americans trade time for money, and although we all complain about it, it’s an arrangement we’ve kept in place for decades. Taking extended time off is not in our culture. Although we say we envy Europeans and their long vacations, in the US, we still, on the whole, follow the “work, retire, travel” model. It’s a system that isn’t going to change soon.

I was a victim of this arrangement until I met some backpackers in Chiang Mai, Thailand. As we discussed travel, time off, and doing what you loved, I kept thinking about how unhappy I was with the American bargain. I had never really thought about it before.

The more the backpackers I met told me about their lifestyle — meeting people around the world, living in bungalows on the beach, eating delicious and cheap food, taking local transportation, and just having fun — the more envious I became.

I went home and changed my mindset.

I created spreadsheets, bought guidebooks, researched online, and cut my expenses as much as I could. I was merciless.

I know people are going to read this post, roll their eyes, talk about my privilege middle-class upbringing, wonder if my parents paid for everything, tell me how they are in debt, and yada, yada, yada.

And there is no doubt I’ve been blessed. There’s no doubt I had a head start.

And there is no doubt not everyone is going to be able to travel.

But I still had to save, plan, and find ways to make that trip (or future trips) happen. My parents never gave me anything for my trip. They actively tried to discourage it.

If I asked you to turn the mirror inward and be completely honest, could you really say to me you’ve exhausted all your options? Could you really say you looked at your expenses to the penny? That you looked at working overseas as a way to fund your trip or pay off your debt? That you couldn’t have a piggy bank where you put at least penny a day? That you tried and tried but could never get travel hacking to work? That it’s truly 100% impossible for you to save for trip?

I’ve seen people in wheelchairs, seniors on pensions find ways to travel, and others take on work to pay off debts.

I think — nay, I know — from experience that most of us haven’t really done that kind of inner searching or planning. I know people don’t know where every penny goes, got into travel hacking, tried to work overseas, or change their habits to make that trip possible. T

The ones that have? Well, they’re traveling right now.

Most of us haven’t done anything more than come up with an excuse as to why our situation is special and unique.

But it’s not.

Our stories are not that unique.

Lots and lots of people have been in your shoes before.

And lots of people have found a way to travel.

Which is good because that means it is possible for you to travel too.

A few years ago, I helped a number of readers plan their trips and was a sounding board for their fears. One of them was Diane, a senior from Canada living on a strict pension. She had dreamed her entire life of visiting Australia but never believed it could happen.

We talked extensively about how she could cut her expenses. She created a list of wants and needs — then stopped buying the wants. Changed her phone plan. Monitored her bills. Got her husband to cut back on smoking and her grandkids to stop asking for things. She got them all on board by explaining why this trip was important. It took close to two years, but eventually, she saved enough to go with her sister.

The world gives you nothing. You have to work for what you want – even if it takes years to get to where you want to go.

Too often we think about the million steps we need to take to get to where we want to go, get overwhelmed by it all, and simply give up.

But, remember, you can only take one step at the time.

Think about the ONE step in front of you and nothing else.

It doesn’t matter if it takes ten years to save for your vacation. All that matters is the first step in front of you. That’s the only thing you need to focus on.

Tomorrow, wake up and ask yourself, “What is the one thing I can do today that will make traveling easier?”

Not sure you can come up with the money? Track all your expenses and figure out where you can cut and put that money automatically each month into a savings account.

Not sure you can take three weeks off work to fly to Australia? Think of destinations closer to you. Or take multiple shorter trips.

Not sure you can get the visa? Find a new place to go.

For every negative excuse, there’s a positive solution.

Don’t let your excuses win.

Start thinking about your first step, plan your trip, ride that unicorn, and become the traveler you were born to be.

And, when you get to your dream destination, send me a postcard!

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Kodak Aerochrome Film Reborn? A Review of the 550nm Infrared Filter

When Ilija, owner of Kolari Vision, emailed me regarding his introduction of the 550nm infrared filter this past winter and shared some of the initial images taken with it, I was intrigued. I had used various models of Nikon DSLRs converted for infrared photography since 2007, relying primarily on the 720nm filter. Over the years, however, I slowly began to develop an appreciation for those filters affording more faux colors. In April, I took the leap and had Ilija convert my Nikon D750. What follows are my thoughts regarding the new 550nm filter, a description of post-processing techniques and settings, and examples of the results.

from Photography Life https://photographylife.com/reviews/kolari-vision-550nm-infrared-filter#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=kolari-vision-550nm-infrared-filter

Nikon D3400 Review

This is a detailed review of the Nikon D3400, the newest entry-level DSLR in the Nikon lineup (as of June 2018). The D3400 uses a top-of-the-line 24 megapixel DX sensor, which is capable of capturing very detailed and high quality photos. But it isn’t all perfect – the Nikon D3400 has noticeable compromises, especially in its handling and menu options. Is it still worth buying? Below, we’ll cover everything you need to know to make your decision.

from Photography Life https://photographylife.com/reviews/nikon-d3400#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=nikon-d3400

Recommended Nikon D3400 Settings

The Nikon D3400’s menu is not as detailed as the ones on other Nikon cameras, but it still can be overwhelming to set properly. In this article, I will cover all the most important camera settings on the D3400, including my personal recommendations for every important menu option on the camera. Don’t take any of these suggestions as the only camera settings that will work for the D3400, but instead as simply a good place to start.

from Photography Life https://photographylife.com/recommended-nikon-d3400-settings#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=recommended-nikon-d3400-settings

Solo Female Travel in Lebanon: Is it Safe?

I just got back from my first trip to Lebanon, and I traveled solo. I had a great time! As a woman who writes about solo female travel for a living, I purposely went to Lebanon because there is almost no information online about traveling Lebanon alone as a woman. I wanted to do the on-the-ground research for myself.

And so I planned a fact-finding trip to Lebanon. I visited for five full days and six nights, basing myself in Beirut and visiting different regions of the country each day. I wanted to gain as much knowledge as possible about traveling in Lebanon, so I visited four very different parts of the country and did so by organized tour, by a private driver (via Uber and taxi) and by public transportation.

What I found was a treasure of a country.

So what did I get up to in Lebanon, anyway?

I wandered through one of the last forests of the Cedars of God, the trees cited in the Bible.

I floated on a boat through underground caves, the water lit up in bright blue.

I climbed through the largest Roman temple on the planet.

I ate freshly caught calamari while overlooking the Mediterranean Sea.

I met a mother and son and spent half an hour having coffee with them and attempting to make conversation with only two words we both understood: “shukran” (thank you) and “habibi” (darling).

I talked, laughed, and told stories over drinks with lots of new Lebanese friends in Beirut.

Yes. It was absolutely worth it to come to Lebanon — a country that is too often labeled as a dangerous place. In this in-depth post, I’m going to tell you what it’s actually like to travel Lebanon as a woman on her own.

(Do note that this post should only serve as the beginning of your personal research. The information listed is accurate as of the date of publication; be sure to research Lebanon’s safety closer to the time of your visit.)

Traveling Lebanon isn’t as dangerous as people think, even if you’re a woman on your own.

Now, what makes people think Lebanon isn’t safe? Violence and Islamic extremism. Let’s talk about them both, frankly and openly.

First up, violence. Lebanon had a 25-year civil war and it lasted from 1975 until 1990. That sounds recent and relevant until you point out that I’m 33 years old now and I turned six years old in 1990. It’s been a long time.

A more recent war in Lebanon took place in 2006. It was between Israeli Defense Forces and Hezbollah, and it lasted only 34 days.

In other words, there hasn’t been any war in Lebanon in 12 years.

Violence beyond that does happen in Lebanon — but it’s both rare and random. Kind of like gun violence in the United States, or terror attacks in France. Impossible to predict or control — but very rare, and not reflective of every travel experience by a mile.

Lebanon takes safety seriously — there is a military presence throughout the country, and you often pass checkpoints on the road. (When I traveled by group tour, none of the buses were checked; when I traveled by public transit, only men were checked.)

Second, Islamic extremism. Many people believe that the Middle East is a hotbed of Islamic extremism, when this couldn’t be further from the truth. Some of these people are rampantly Islamophobic; others are simply unaware and repeating half-heard sound bites from friends and cable news.

Lebanon is one of the most religiously diverse countries in the world. It has 18 recognized religions (!!) and a large percentage of nonbelievers. Lebanon is roughly 55% Muslim (split almost evenly between Sunni and Shi’a Muslims) and about 40% Christian (around half Maronite Catholics with large Greek Orthodox, Melkite Catholic and Armenian Orthodox communities). Churches and mosques are placed close together; Lebanese of all faiths worship side by side in peace.

I kept thinking to myself that Lebanon reminded me of the Balkans — only on a much larger scale. Not only are the landscapes and architecture similar, but they also have a similar cultural mix, with Muslims and Christians living together in harmony.

Many people think every country in the Middle East is like Saudi Arabia: a strict country where religion controls everything, your wardrobe is policed, terrorists are nurtured, and women have few rights. Compare that to Lebanon, where you can drink beer on the street. In a miniskirt. During Ramadan.

As I always say, consider the source. When someone is telling you it’s not safe to travel to Lebanon, ask yourself the following questions: Does this person travel? Does this person travel in your style of traveling? Has this person been to Lebanon? Has this person traveled to Lebanon recently? Those should be your starting points.

And if your source doesn’t match up, you should listen to people who do travel and have been there recently. Like me.

How to Stay Safe in Lebanon

I encourage you to start by reading the US State Department travel advisory and UK travel safety advice for Lebanon.

While I’m American, I often find US travel warnings to be excessively cautious and somewhat alarmist. For example, the Philippines is perpetually on the warning list due to terror activity in the Sulu Archipelago; that would be like giving the US a travel warning because a few random islands in Alaska are home to a terrorist group, even though most people aren’t going anywhere near a few random islands in Alaska and they can easily be avoided.

I find the UK warnings give a more nuanced view of what precautions to take country. They point out specific areas where more caution should be exercised — like the towns north of Tripoli, the far south near the Israeli border, and Palestinian refugee camps.

This post by Against the Compass is an excellent resource for travel safety in Lebanon. It’s updated periodically with the latest safety information. I encourage you to save it and take a closer look before your trip.

Where to Stay in Lebanon: Use Beirut As Your Base

Lebanon is a small country — you can get almost anywhere within a two-hour drive of Beirut. Because of that, it makes sense to use Beirut as a base and travel from there.

While there are drivers saying, “Taxi?” everywhere you go in Beirut, I preferred to get around by Uber. Most trips around Beirut cost me less than $5.

There are lots of good hotels in Beirut and they’re quite reasonably priced. I stayed at the Radisson Blu Martinez, which is located centrally in the Hamra neighborhood. My room was a bit dated and in need of a refurbishing, but it had fast internet (very rare in Lebanon) and all the amenities I needed. Rates from $75 per night.

If you like something quirky and Instagrammable, check out the Smallville Hotel. It’s Superman themed! I attended a Travel Massive meetup there and really enjoyed the rooftop bar. Rates from $115 per night.

Find deals on hotels in Beirut here.

Traveling Solo in Lebanon by Organized Tour

If you’re nervous about traveling in Lebanon, taking group tours from Beirut is a great (as well as economical) way to see the country.

I did two organized tours on my trip: one to Anjar, Baalbek, and Ksara and one to the Cedars. They are bilingual tours given in French and English.

Here are some of the most popular tours:

• Anjar, Baalbek, and Ksara — I did this tour and recommend it. See two sets of ruins (Anjar and Baalbek) that are UNESCO World Heritage Sites, then go wine tasting in Ksara.
• Cedars, Bcharré, and Kozhaya — I did this tour and recommend it if you want to see the Cedars and/or a lot of mountain scenery; otherwise, I don’t think it’s essential. Know that the UNESCO World Heritage-listed Cedars park is tiny, but a nice walk. Bcharré is home to an unremarkable Gibran museum but a GORGEOUS view; Kozhaya is home to a very cool monastery carved into the rocks.
• Byblos, Jeita Grotto and Harissa — I visited Byblos and Jeita Grotto via Uber/taxi but skipped Harissa. I don’t think it’s necessary to do this as a group tour; it’s close to Beirut. I preferred doing my own thing and having time to explore. Byblos is a gorgeous village home to UNESCO World Heritage-listed ruins; Harissa has outstanding views down to the coast, and Jeita Grotto is home to glorious cave systems underground.
• Tyre, Sidon and Maghdouche — I visited Tyre via public transportation and could have easily added Sidon as well; I don’t think this one is necessary to do as a group tour. Tyre is a great little city home to UNESCO World Heritage-listed ruins; Sidon is famous for its souks and Sea Castle, and Maghdouche has some great views.
• There’s also an Anjar, Baalbek and Kozhaya tour that combines the ruins of the Beqaa Valley with the Cedars in a slightly longer trip. Knowing what I know now, I probably would have done it to give myself an extra day.

These tours are pretty much all done by the same tour company in Lebanon, who will pick you up from your hotel. A big Lebanese feast is served for lunch; I liked all the food we had. They also stop for breakfast and coffee, but you have to pay for what you get there. Most of my fellow travelers were older European couples.

The tours each cost around $80-100, including entrance fees and lunch, which works out to be a lot less than hiring a driver for the day.

Was it cheesy? A bit. But I think it was a good way to explore the further reaches of Lebanon, especially since the Cedars and the Beqaa Valley are either far or complicated to get to. There was about four hours of driving on the Cedars trip and I relished having the time to read.

Traveling Solo in Lebanon with a Private Driver

Many people hire a private driver for the day when they come to Lebanon. This is the most efficient way to see the destinations you want at a pace that works for you. Rates from agencies in Beirut start at around $175 per day. However, pretty much every taxi driver in Lebanon will offer their services to you and negotiate that rate down. The lowest I was personally offered was $150.

As a solo traveler, I did not want to spend $150 per day on a driver alone. It just seemed outlandishly expensive. If I were splitting that with others, the price would be more reasonable.

However, it seems like everyone in Beirut “has a guy” for driving and can get you a cheaper rate, sometimes as cheap as $100 per day. If you have any Lebanese friends or acquaintances, ask if they have a driver they recommend. If you want to find Lebanese friends, read below for how to meet people.

Traveling Solo by Uber and Taxi

Uber is available in the Beirut area, and it’s much cheaper than what local taxis charge, so I decided to try this method for a day trip instead of hiring a driver. I started by summoning an Uber to take me to Jeita Grotto, about a 35-minute drive from Beirut.

There was no way to access internet at Jeita Grotto and I didn’t have a SIM card, so I negotiated with a driver waiting in the parking lot to take me to Byblos (Jbail), another 30 minutes away. I had done research in advance and knew that an Uber would cost around $15, though you’ll never get a local driver to agree to Uber prices; we started at $35 and negotiated down to $20.

Summoning an Uber from Byblos was much harder — I got internet from a cafe, but it’s an hour’s drive from Beirut. On the first two tries, nobody was available; on the third try, a driver accepted the fare. Had there been nobody available, I would have gotten a taxi.

I was very happy with this method of travel; I feel like this was the perfect combination of having time and freedom to do my thing and not having to pay through the nose for a private driver. It’s worth noting that Byblos is pretty close to Beirut, so this would probably be the best place to do this method.

Do note that in 2017, a British embassy worker was murdered by an Uber driver. Shortly after, the Lebanese Interior Minister released a statement urging the Lebanese not to use Uber and to use local taxis instead. I didn’t let that dissuade me. In a country like Lebanon, where most of the drivers are unregistered and unofficial, I actually thought using Uber added a layer of safety.

Note: women should not sit in the front seat of a taxi; culturally, women are expected not to talk with the driver beyond giving directions.

Traveling Solo by Public Transportation

I didn’t want to leave Lebanon without traveling by public transportation. At first my local friends were horrified that I would subject myself to public transportation in Lebanon (!), but this was ultimately a wonderful experience and I wish I had done more of it elsewhere.

One of my expat friends in Beirut likes taking the bus and she gave me tips: “The front two rows are unofficially reserved for women. Sit next to a woman. Don’t wear a tank top; wear longer sleeves. Put in headphones if someone bothers you. You pay when you get out.”

There are several pickups around Beirut. If you’re heading south to Tyre (Sour) or Sidon (Saida), like I did, head to Cola Intersection.

Beirut to Sidon was supposed to take about an hour; the driver got there in 45 minutes. When we got to the drop-off, I paid the driver 2,000 Lebanese pounds ($1.33) and said, “Sour?” as soon as I stepped off and I was shown where the bus to Tyre (Sour) was. Another 45 minutes, another 2,000 pounds, and I was in Tyre.

Both of these minibus trips were beyond easy. I found seats in the front rows next to women; the one time a man sat next to me, it was due to there being nowhere else to sit, and he left a good six inches of space between us (that would NEVER happen in New York). Do know that on buses you’ll probably be surrounded by people who speak only Arabic, not English or French.

Honestly, considering how easy this was, I wouldn’t dream of hiring a driver or going on a group tour to Tyre and Sidon. $5 round-trip compared to $80+ for a group tour or $175 for a private driver? How can you even compare?!

There was just one thing — on the way back to Beirut, the driver dropped me in the middle of a busy intersection rather than taking me back to Cola Intersection. I asked him to take me back to Cola; he refused. I stepped out and said, “Taxi?” and a guy on the corner hailed a shared taxi for me. And by shared taxi, I mean a random guy.

Hiring a Car in Lebanon

It’s definitely possible to rent a car in Lebanon and explore that way, but I would only recommend doing so if 1) you are an extremely skilled driver and 2) you relish driving in environments where the drivers are absolutely crazy.

The driving in Lebanon is insane. People weave in and out of lines and make the rules up as they go, ignoring traffic lights and doing U-turns where no U-turns should be possible.

However, it seems like the Lebanese all abide by the same lack of rules. I tend to categorize countries with unusually bad driving as either in the style of Vietnam or Malta. In Vietnam, there are no rules, but all drivers seem to be in sync in terms of the driving style. In Malta, the rules of driving are normal, but lots of drivers are incredibly reckless. I compare Lebanese driving to Vietnamese driving more than Maltese driving.

If you’re anything less than an expert at driving in rough conditions, don’t rent a car in Lebanon. I wouldn’t do it in a million years.

What Women Should Wear in Lebanon

Lebanon as a country varies quite a bit — some parts feel very European and some parts feel very Middle Eastern. Again, it’s a mix of cultures and religions, so you don’t have to hold yourself to what your image of “traditional Middle Eastern wear” would be. When I arrived in Beirut, I wore a loose short-sleeved top and jeans and went out to see what local women were wearing.

During my May and June trip, I saw that skinny jeans and a short-sleeved or sleeveless top was the most common look for women in Beirut. You did occasionally see a woman wearing a skirt or dress, but not nearly as common as jeans. I also noticed that few women displayed their cleavage unless it were a private event or in a more liberal area (like the bar-filled streets of the Mar Mikhael neighborhood). Conservative Muslim women wear a hijab and cover to their wrists and ankles.

Wherever I go in the world, I find it best to dress like a slightly more conservative local. For that reason, I eschewed my knee-length dresses and instead wore jeans and short-sleeved or sleeveless tops. I wore a full-coverage sports bra (this one from the Gap) underneath my low-cut shirts to hide my cleavage. You can see that look in the photo above.

Beirut and Byblos are the more liberal areas I visited in Beirut and this style of clothing will be fine there.

If you’re heading up to the mountains, bring a jacket. I was surprised at how cold it got there compared to the coast, even in late May. If you’re visiting in the winter, keep in mind that it gets cold enough to snow in parts of Lebanon. There are even ski resorts.

As for shoes, I have bad arches and live in comfy but cute shoes from The Walking Company. I strongly recommend black ABEO flats, which have fantastic arch support. I wore them every day in Lebanon. You might also like a pair of black boots if you’re visiting in the chillier months.

Also, bring a crossbody purse that zips to keep your belongings close and safe. Amazon has lots of affordable options. If you want to spend more, Rebecca Minkoff makes some of the best. You can also check out my guide to the best travel purses.

If you’re visiting more conservative areas (like Sidon, Tyre, or Tripoli), or riding public transportation, I recommend dressing more conservatively. Above is my standard conservative outfit: jeans, a long collared shirt (technically a very short shirtdress) that goes to mid-thigh, a 3/4-length cardigan on top.

One of the most common questions I get about traveling in the Middle East is, “Do you have to wear a headscarf?” If you’re a foreign woman traveling in the Middle East, you almost never need to wear one. The exceptions: Saudi Arabia, Iran, when visiting a mosque, or when visiting an exceptionally conservative area where you’re advised to do so.

In Lebanon, the only time you need to wear a headscarf is if you’re visiting a mosque; in that case, you should also cover to your wrists and ankles. Some mosques in Beirut, like Mohammed al-Amin Mosque, provide robes for visitors.

Catcalling and Harassment in Lebanon

I was very pleasantly surprised — for almost the entire trip, not a single man in Lebanon made me feel uncomfortable whatsoever. No harassment, no remarks, no staring, no touching.

Until my fourth day in Lebanon, when a guy on his bike rode by me and made kissing noises. Ugh.

One incident, and a very small one at that, over the course of five days. That is exceptionally low. I get three times that amount of harassment just walking home from the subway in New York.

Generally, I felt extremely respected in Lebanon. Men didn’t stare at me, not even in more conservative areas where lone Western women are rare, not even parts of Beirut where there were few women on the street.

Believe it or not, I’m going to rank Lebanon nearly at the level of Japan and Southeast Asia for places where women can travel solo without receiving constant harassment.

How to Meet People in Lebanon

Lebanese people are awesome. Warm, welcoming, intelligent, hospitable. If you already know locals in Lebanon, they’ll roll out the red carpet for you; if you don’t, don’t worry — you can meet some people!

My friend Jess is now running Travel Massive Beirut, a monthly travel industry/travel people meetup. Check it out to see if there are any taking place during your visit. That photo above is of me and my new friend Asdghik, who runs The Jetsetter Diaries. We met in the elevator at Travel Massive!

Couchsurfing Beirut has a weekly meetup on Wednesday nights at Aaliya’s Books in Gemmayze. You don’t have to be a Couchsurfer to join — all are welcome, both travelers and locals.

Beirut also has a number of meetup groups. You’re bound to find a group that shares one of your interests.

Lebanon Safety Map via gov.uk — June 2018

Visiting Baalbek and “Less Safe” Regions in Lebanon

Lebanon’s most impressive cultural site is the collection of ruins at Baalbek. Here is where you’ll find the largest remaining Roman temple in the world. Nearby are the ruins of Anjar. Both of these collections are UNESCO World Heritage Sites.

And…the city of Baalbek is in the Beqaa Valley, often labeled as a no-go zone, and it’s under the control of Hezbollah. Also known as the Party of God, Hezbollah is a Shi’a political militant party considered a terrorist organization by the US, EU, and many other state parties.

That, at first glance, sounds like it should be a no-go — but what you see on the ground is not what you think. While there has been violence in Baalbek and the Beqaa Valley in the past, the past few years have been normal. As such, group tours visit there daily and both sets of famous ruins are filled with tourists.

We passed through a single checkpoint and it felt like anywhere else in Lebanon — just with some extra yellow flags flying. Hezbollah controls the city, but they’re not terrorizing the people who live there, nor the tourists. Honestly, the only thing that was remotely out of the ordinary was that vendors were selling Hezbollah t-shirts.

We passed through a single checkpoint and it felt like anywhere else in Lebanon — just with some extra yellow flags flying.

Had there been recent violence in this region, I would not have gone. That was the decision I made for myself personally; you need to make the decision that is right for you.

Do note that Anjar is only 7 km (4.3 miles) from the Syrian border, but you won’t be anywhere near a border checkpoint. There’s a mountain range separating Lebanon and Syria — it’s not like people are just walking from one side to the other.

To keep an eye on current developments in the Beqaa Valley and other regions in Lebanon, I recommend following this map.

We passed through a single checkpoint and it felt like anywhere else in Lebanon — just with some extra yellow flags flying.

Tripoli, Lebanon’s second largest city, is another destination that is often mentioned in advisories. The cities north of Tripoli often experience violence, and at this point in time, certain neighborhoods in Tripoli (where NO tourists go) have violence between local factions. Read the current UK travel advisory for the current situation.

I will add that a Lebanese friend of a friend said that she wouldn’t recommend that a Western woman travel to Tripoli solo. While I do have Western friends who have traveled safely in Tripoli, I decided to exercise caution here and skip it.

Most governments advise you to avoid refugee camps in Lebanon. Lebanon has a population of around 5 million Lebanese and around 3 million refugees, most of them Palestinian or Syrian. Some of the camps are home to violence; many of them are hostile to outsiders. If you don’t have to be there, there’s no reason to go.

Areas near the borders are also generally discouraged. For example, you need a permit to visit the far south of Lebanon, near the Israeli border. This permit can be obtained by anyone in the city of Sidon, but there is no tourism value in this region — there is no reason to go unless you’re chasing danger for the sake of it.

I’m not going to tell you whether you should or shouldn’t visit these parts of Lebanon. That’s your personal choice to make, not mine. As I said previously, this guide is meant to be a starting point for planning your trip.

Other Lebanon Travel Safety Advice

Many “taxis” are not in good condition. So few cars actually had seat belts (in fact, I think the only cars with seat belts were Uber cars, and not even all of them had them). The driver who I hired to take me from Jeita Grotto to Byblos drove an ancient Mercedes, and it squealed and lurched so much that I doubt the brakes would pass a vehicle exam.

Lebanon uses two forms of currency: the Lebanese lira and the US dollar. Like many countries using the US as an alternate currency, like Cuba and Cambodia, dollars are generally used for larger transactions and lira for small transactions, like bus fare, but you can get away with lira for everything if you’d like. You can get both currencies at ATMs. The rate is 1500 lira to the dollar — 15,000 lira is $10.

Bring a digital guidebook. I’m a fan of guidebook PDFs that you keep on your phone. I bought the Lebanon chapter from Lonely Planet’s Middle East guide and I found it to be extremely helpful, especially since the internet was often spotty.

Pack a portable safe. Put your valuables inside the safe and lock it to something sturdy in your room. I consider my portable safe the most important item I pack.

Electricity and internet are not great. Blackouts are frequent and common; often they only last a few moments. Most businesses serving international visitors will have a backup generator. When I told my local friends how good the internet was at the Radisson Blu Martinez, they told me that was unusual and I had booked a nice place.

You can buy a SIM card in Lebanon, but they tend to be the most expensive plans in the Middle East, more than what you’d pay in Europe and around what you’d pay in the US. The two main providers are Touch and Alfa. Check their sites for current rates.

French is widely spoken in Lebanon. It’s the remnants of France’s colonization. It’s not unusual for Lebanese to be trilingual in Arabic, French, and English; in other parts, people speak only Arabic. But if you have any French skills, it could help you out a lot.

Do not take pictures of checkpoints or military. Not just in Lebanon — don’t do that anywhere. Especially be prudent when taking photos in Hezbollah-controlled areas.

Be careful about travel insurance. Many travel insurance providers, including World Nomads, my usual travel insurance provider, will cover some but not all of Lebanon. Areas where there are travel advisories, sometimes including the Beqaa Valley (including the popular sites of Baalbek and Anjar), will not be covered. In this case, you’ll need to buy supplemental coverage for high risk zones. Some companies that do this are Securiglobe and High Risk Voyager.

I recommend calling your travel insurance provider and speaking to them directly about areas they do and don’t cover, then confirm it in writing via email. This information is not always easily accessible online, and it can change from day to day depending on the security situation of the country you’re visiting.

Should You Go to Lebanon?

I think Lebanon is best suited for more experienced travelers, not newbies. It doesn’t have much travel infrastructure outside Beirut; its gifts and treasures aren’t as obvious. Traffic is a nightmare; trash is everywhere, including on all the beaches. I find Lebanon to be an interesting, nuanced, and rewarding destination, but I don’t think a newbie traveler would feel the same way.

If you’re experienced at solo travel in lots of different regions around the world, you won’t find Lebanon to be much of a challenge. It just requires a little extra work and patience.

For me, as a very experienced solo female traveler, it was worth it. I had a great time and I’d love to return! To be honest, now that I’ve done a lot of the touristy things in Lebanon, I feel free to really explore Beirut and let loose. Those beach clubs are calling my name!

If you’re looking to explore the Middle East for the first time, however, I recommend Jordan over Lebanon. When I visited in 2011, I declared Jordan to be the perfect introduction to the Middle East, and I still feel that way today. Jordan is a very safe country to visit, it has a strong (and growing) travel infrastructure, and it has much more of a “wow” factor.

But if you’ve already traveled to quite a few places, I think you’ll enjoy Lebanon. This country is truly special.

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Huawei Mate 10 Pro Camera Review

We are continuing our assessment of some of the latest mobile devices from different manufacturers, and this time we are going to dive deep into the photo capabilities of the new Huawei Mate 10 Pro. This smartphone was supposed to be marketed and sold by AT&T in the USA, after the company signed a large deal with the Chinese manufacturer (which happens to be the third largest smartphone maker in the world), but sadly, AT&T withdrew from the deal right before the launch thanks to the pressure exhibited by US lawmakers. Verizon and Best Buy also followed suit right after, forcing Huawei to market its products through other channels such as Amazon. Even the latest P20 and P20 Pro smartphone releases that punch a lot of great technology won’t be making their way into the consumer market through large mobile carriers. Despite these issues and somewhat limited availability in the USA, Huawei’s smartphones remain as excellent choices for many, including photographers. I recently had a chance to try out the Huawei Mate 10 Pro, and after using the device for a couple of months, I wanted to share my experience with our readers.

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A Weekend at the Wylder Hotel in Tilghman Island, Maryland

“You have to get out of the city once per month.”

Since I moved to New York more than two years ago, this has been advice I’ve always taken, yet rarely put into action. This is a city where people are driven to work work work, do more, make more money, and as individualistic as the people are here, the drive to succeed tends to seep into everything you do. 

Then Antarctica happened and blew my mind open. After 12 days offline in brutal nature, I returned with a clear mind, bursting at the seams with creativity. That settled it. While I can’t head off to Antarctica at the drop of the hat, I can and should get offline and into nature whenever I can. 

Then I got an interesting email: an offer to come to Maryland’s Eastern Shore for the weekend and enjoy a stay at the brand new Wylder Hotel on Tilghman Island. It was a doable weekend trip from New York, they pointed out.

And I was intrigued — because I had never considered this destination before. 

Most of the hotel invites I receive are from places I have no plans to visit and I respond with, “Thank you so much! I’ll keep your offer in mind if I plan a trip to Bali/northern Alabama/Novosibirsk, Siberia.” (Bali is pretty much the least likely of those three.)

This one was different. The hotel looked beautiful, it was close by but offbeat, it was located in nature, and I’ve never seen a single travel blog post about this region. Why not say yes? I accepted, we worked out dates, I got strep, we worked out new dates, and in early May I made my trip down to Tilghman Island. 

When you think of weekend getaways from New York, most New Yorkers think of small towns upstate like Hudson, or somewhere on the Jersey Shore, or any of the myriad getaways in New England. Maybe Montreal or DC if you wanted to go further afield. There’s no reason why Maryland couldn’t be on that list as well.

In my mind, it would look just like Wedding Crashers. (“Crabcakes and football — that’s what Maryland does!”) 

Tilghman Island and the Eastern Shore

Slowly the city disappeared around me. A heinous traffic jam in lower Manhattan gave way to the highways of New Jersey, the suburban towns of Delaware and Maryland, and suddenly I was cruising down a rural road, few other signs of civilization around. 

Even though few Marylanders would consider themselves to be Southerners, I noticed the hints of Southern-ness around you. Accents that have the slightest lilt to them, but not a full-on Southern drawl. The presence of grits on menus. And most significantly, people who welcome you warmly and have full-on conversations.

At one point, I accidentally went down a private way and drove into someone’s driveway. I turned around quickly and saw a man in gardening gear approaching. Uh-oh, I thought to myself. I hope he doesn’t yell at me to get off his property.

I rolled my window down to talk to the man. His opener? “Hello, there! Welcome to Tilghman!” We spent a few minutes chatting about Tilghman, the local attractions, and the Wylder Hotel. By the time we said our goodbyes, I felt like I made a new friend.

Tilghman Island is known for its boating culture; it seems like everyone here lives for getting out on the water. If you like to boat — or fish — you’ll be very happy with the opportunities here. But at the same time, it has a lovely throwback look to it — as if it hasn’t changed in decades.

In fact, with the right Instagram filter, it looks like you could be visiting in the sixties or seventies.

The Wylder Hotel

My main goal for this weekend was to relax — and it couldn’t have been easier. The Wylder Hotel, a family-owned property, just opened this past spring. With only 54 rooms on an expansive nine acres, it feels like a bed and breakfast.

This is not the kind of place you stay for a million activities and excursions at a breakneck pace. This is where you come to chill out.

Just look at these grounds.

Five minutes in that hammock and my mind was wiped nearly to Antarctica levels. Seriously. I don’t know what it is about Tilghman, but it has a way of removing all the stresses that impact your life.

On the grounds you have outdoor decks, a hammock, an outdoor fireplace, a bocce court, lawn games, and a saltwater pool. And of course, since this is Tilghman, there’s a marina where you can bring your boat. There’s also a canoe, a paddle board and a kayak available to take out on the bay.

Everything fits into a nautical theme. It’s all brand new and you can feel the love that went into its design.

There are two restaurants in the property: Bar Mundo and Tickler’s Crab Shack.

Breakfast, in the bar, included a fluffy omelet, yogurt parfait, and delicious pastries…

Dinner, also in the bar, had so many delicious dishes on the menu. Two major standouts? The burrata with tomato jam, slathered all over crostini. And that rockfish entree was serious — it’s a fish that eats like meat.

But the absolute best dishes were reserved for brunch the next day. It was Mother’s Day during my visit and they had a special menu for the event. First out came a variety of appetizers — fresh oysters, hush puppies, asparagus, and the most absolutely delicious deviled eggs stuffed with crab.

I would eat those crab deviled eggs every day if I could. They were THAT good.

The main dish? Shrimp and grits. Rich and hearty in all the right ways.

The rooms are simply and elegant. They’re on the small side, but they have everything you need.

Any caveats? Small ones. It would have been nice to have some kind of side table next to the bed — even a simple shelf would have been a help. My bathroom door didn’t fully close; I told John and he said he’d fix it right away.

St. Michaels

A 25-minute drive from Tilghman Island is St. Michaels, an absolutely beautiful village and one of the highlights of my weekend. It’s full of pretty cottages with beautifully manicured yards, shops, boutiques, and restaurants.

I’ve been to little touristy villages all over the United States. They’re filled with gift shops selling novelty items — signs that read “Flip Flops Only,” dish towels that say, “The answer is wine. What was the question?” and the like.

Not St. Michaels. Somehow the shops here are infinitely classier. There are plenty of gift shops hawking wares for your fantasy vacation home, but these stores are actually filled with items I would legitimately put in my house. Beautiful furniture, accessories, and objets d’art. And while there’s obviously a strong nautical theme, it’s far from the only theme in town.

After browsing the shops and galleries, I stop at the Carpenter Street Saloon for lunch. Here in Maryland I’m trying to eat as much crab as humanly possible, and immediately order the “crab balls,” along with an order of shrimp. (Seriously. If something on the menu is called “crab balls,” I’m ordering it.)

“Here, try some Old Bay,” the waitress offers. She shakes out the iconic Maryland seafood seasoning into my hand and encourages me to lick it up. (I giggle to myself. This would not happen in New York.) The shrimp comes with its shells on, drenched in Old Bay, and I’m wondering the etiquette — do I lick it off and discard the shells? Do I put the whole thing in my mouth, shells and all? The world may never know.

And I’m Back

Two nights isn’t enough — but it’s time to go home. 

I can feel dueling spirits fill my body on the drive home. Half of me is infinitely relaxed; the other half is getting tenser by the minute as more gray buildings dot the landscape. Soon I’m craving a frappuccino to stay alert. Little by little, that stress settles in; traffic in New Jersey around the Lincoln Tunnel doesn’t help.

I drop off the car at a garage in Flatiron and hop on the 1 train back to Harlem. An older man sits down next to me on the uncrowded train and says, “Thank you,” into the air for no discernible reason. Then he turns to me and leans in. “Thank you,” he repeats. The hair stands up on the back of my neck. He leans in further. “I appreciate it,” he says. This, as any woman will recognize, has nothing to do with thanking me or appreciating me. This man’s goal is to intimidate me, to tell me that I don’t belong in his space. My body is rigid until he gets off at 42nd St.; at that point, I deflate.

I choose to live in a hard place because the pros outweigh the cons. But I wouldn’t be able to deal with the stress or urban life without making regular visits to the softer places, too. Places like Tilghman. The places where you can sit on a dock and feel your mind go beautifully blank, where waitresses have you lick Old Bay up from your hand, where local homeowners welcome inadvertent trespassers with a smile.

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Essential Info: The Wylder Hotel on Tilghman Island, Maryland, is accessible by car only. High-season rates start at $248 per night.

Tilghman Island is about a four-hour drive from northern New Jersey without traffic; I recommend that you rent your car from Newark Airport or one of the nearby towns like Fort Lee or Teaneck. If you’re leaving from Manhattan, beware the traffic of rush hour. It’s about a two-hour drive from Baltimore or Washington DC, and about a three-hour drive from Philadelphia.

Do note that phone signal around Tilghman Island and the hotel is limited, but the hotel has excellent wifi.

I use travel insurance for all of my trips to protect myself (and my finances) from ruin. For this trip and all my US trips, I used World Nomads, which I highly recommend.

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